FLQ - Defensiveness, facts and jerks

It’s Friday Listener Questions day! WooHoo! On today’s show, we’ve got defensiveness, staying married to a-holes who will never change, and someone still completely stuck on the importance of facts! Consider it managed!

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  • Can asking back to back questions cause defensiveness in a seemingly innocent conversation?
    • Of course, but really depends on your tone and context of the conversation.
      Anything can turn someone defensive, fairly or unfairly.
  • Should someone stay in a marriage with an asshole who is not going to change?
  • Totally get the “Feelings, not facts” focus, but don’t we sometimes have to reach a common understanding of the facts in order to more fully...
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I got a B on Valentine's Day!

Today is a special day for love! And you get to experience my Valentine’s Day gift for Amy live on Facebook and over the podcast.  I really hope she likes it!

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Pursue attraction

I don’t know why, but for some reason when I have an amazing story to share for this podcast, I think of Mr. Rogers! I’ve got a story for you today that has a drunken crowd, a demanding husband and a wife who does the only thing she could possibly do to make the situation... promising. Join us as we pursue attraction!

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There is an old story that illustrates the principle of honor within marriage. A drunkard husband, spending the evening with his jovial and drunken companions at a tavern, boasted that if he took a group of his friends home with him at midnight and asked his Christian wife to get up and cook supper for them, she would do it without complaint. He laughed...

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Discover the DNA of your relationships

You are made for three fulfilling relationships. You are designed to seek loving, fulfilling and safe relationships with God, others and yourself. Each of these relationships is not only important, but each is intricately related to the other. Everyone wants deep, connected, safe, intimate relationships. A special episode taken from the video series, The DNA of Relationships.  Enjoy my father's session!

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Pursue communication and the Empty Box

Today we have a story. It’s called the Empty Box and we don’t know who wrote it, but trust us, you want to hear it. The emptiness may not be so empty after all.

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  • You've got to listen to the story I read for today's show! 
  • We have a gift for you today as well, but it’s not an empty box, but it is filled with L.O.V.E. Talk.
  • “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10)

 

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Pursue unity quietly

President Roosevelt's "day in infamy" and Winston Churchill's "never surrender" are two famous speeches setting the tone for today's show. We share a story from our past that I’m simply calling, the great American meltdown of NYC! Today we pursue unity through a story.

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  • Perhaps the greatest scripture in the Bible about taking a timeout is James 1:19, “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”  
  • This is the essence of what it means to take a timeout.  
    1. This is yet another verse in Scripture we need to live out by taking a timeout when we get upset....
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Pursue peace crazy fast

Today is about understanding, perhaps, the single greatest thing you can do to decrease anger and increase intimacy! Pursue validation.

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(Here's a link to that precious girls GoFundMe page, who helps the elderly and gives them three wishes.)

What does it mean to validate? 'If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.’  1 Corinthians 13:3

Validating is really living out Matthew 7:12! You know how you want to be treated, so go ahead and grab the initiative and do it for your partner!  First accepting someone’s feelings...

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Pursue Healthy Reactions

That was some of the greatest one-liners from movie history edited by Burger Fiction! What does it have to do with today's show on Pursuing Healthy Reactions? Everything! We needed drama to set up understanding the drama in your communication.  Today is about finally discovering what's actually wrong with your relationship! Welcome.

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What's really the problem in your relationship?  As Al Pacino might say as Tony Montana from the movie Scarface, "Say hello to my little friend..." called buttons!  The problem is a miserable dance you get stuck in that exclusively deals with how you react when your buttons get pushed.

What are buttons "my...

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FLQ - separate churches and know it all 7yr olds

Could a couple go to separate churches and how do you handle a 7yr old know-it-all boy? All this today on Friday Listener Questions day!

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Voicemail question:
So again, my question is what is your thoughts about husband and wife going to two separate churches. We were going to separate he decided that he was going to go there. We didn't separate we work on our marriage and now we're back together, but now he wants me to fully commit to being there and I wish I was able to stay where we were since we were young.

Mia Albert
I’m at the dentist waiting for my seven-year-old, so I can’t call, but am hoping you will take my “FLQ” this way!!...

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Pursue incredible change!

“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation.” - Madeleine L’Engle

Today is day two of the Pursue Oneness series of podcasts. It’s the first of seven key strategies that will help you build the relationship of your dreams! And you’re going to hate this one! Because it is staring at you every morning in the mirror.

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Today is all about Pursuing Responsibility!

“If we commit ourselves to one...

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