Your marriage is hard, now get over it

I’m continuing in the series, The Warriors Marriage, today is perhaps the simplest concept and the hardest way to be a warrior in your marriage. Your marriage is hard, circumstances seem impossible, now get over it.

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“No matter how bad things are, you can always make things worse.” ― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

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Welcome, “Today is the 2nd part of my series on the warrior’s marriage, and you’re not going to like it...well...you’ll eventually like it but first I have to shove a few things down your throat for a second, maybe a minute.  “Welcome to the Inspiritaitonal Comedy podcast with Michael Smalley, learning doesn’t have to be boring!”

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The pain is a good thang!

• Why do we avoid it?
  
  • No one likes it
  • Seems logical to avoid
• How is it a good thang?
  • You can’t know pleasure without pain
  • Relief from pain brings pleasure (Studies show when relief arrives, and it will, pleasure is better than before)
  • You bond through pain
    • It’s why camping was such fun!
  • Gives you permission to reward yourself

“There's a reason a cold beer tastes better after you've mowed the lawn or a hot chocolate tastes better after you shovel the...

Who are you?

• A crisis of life - My own journey of identity
• I had all the head knowledge
• My actions showed I didn’t actually believe it

These choices reflect who we are and what we value.

• It’s important not to identify just as a wife or a soldier. You are far more than that.
• We get in trouble when we allow our parents or society to define who we are (e.g., the pursuit of materialism, power, and appearance).
• Identity may be acquired indirectly from parents, peers, and other role models.
• Children come to define themselves in terms of how they think their parents see them.
  
  • If their parents see them as worthless, they will come to define themselves as worthless. People who perceive themselves as likable may remember more positive than negative statements.

To be more satisfied in your relationship means living in harmony with who you really are.

• You are not a reflection of the life around you.
• You aren’t just a wife, husband, warrior, or anything of this world....