The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

The most easy way to understand the heart of communication conflict resolution love talk series Feb 13, 2018

Last show we talked about the importance of having structure in how you resolve conflict. So you can’t just go all willy-nilly during conflict and think you’re going to get anything solved.

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Is oral sex allowed for a Christian couple marriage sexual intimacy Feb 08, 2018

I just received this question and it jumped right off the page at me!

We have just ordered over $400 worth of books, workbooks, cd’s and dvd’s from you and your family……..we are desperate……I just

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LOVE Talk, the most powerful communication method on earth! conflict resolution love talk series Feb 07, 2018

Do you ever get into conflict? I’m in conflict every other day with my wife! And we help couples for a living! Today you are going to discover, possibly, the most important thing about resolving con...

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Menopause - an interview with an expert marriage Jan 16, 2018

What a show today! I get to interview Rhonda Jolliffe, the founder of rhondanp.com.  What's so great about the show today? We have one of the most honest and frank conversations about menopause ever...

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How to end it well divorce marriage Jan 09, 2018

Today Seth Johnson is taking over the show. So everything we talk about is something he wanted, and he got.

  • Seth wants to talk about ending well.
  • Every good thing sometimes comes to an end
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Get to know your mate's inner child conversation starters marriage Jan 04, 2018

Intimacy is more than just hanging out with each other or sharing your deepest emotions.  It is also important to get to know each other.  These questions can help you learn a little bit more about ea...

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The over spiritualization syndrome Jan 02, 2018

A single guy asked a question for the show that hit some serious buttons for me. I wouldn’t say I’m angry, because I’m not, but I am definitely worked up because I feel like single Christian people ...

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Does what we teach possibly harm your relationship? marriage Dec 26, 2017

“You've talked about taking a timeout when things get too heated. I feel my husband uses this phrase as a way of avoiding the problems we face. Unfortunately, communication in our marriage has becom...

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Is it ok to walk away from your marriage? marriage Dec 19, 2017

Today we take on one of the shortest, yet intense question asked by a listener yet! I’ll just let you read it for yourself, “Is there a walking away point in marriage?”  I don’t know...is there? We’...

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Talking to yourself makes a huge impact marriage personal help Dec 12, 2017

On Saturday Night Live, a character named Stuart Smalley used to say, “I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and dog gone it people like me.” I’m not sure we’ve ever had a better introduction to the sh...

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The Church Marriage Strategy churches marriage Dec 05, 2017

Why we are doing a show like today is beyond me! Because I know at first, you’re going to be thinking to yourself, “How is this going to help me? I’m not a pastor or a leader at a church.” Well my l...

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A conversation with the "Sex Master" Dave Willis marriage sexual intimacy Nov 28, 2017

What's healthy when it comes to sexual intimacy in marriage? This episode is definitely not for little ears, a warning to those parents who might not want their kids to hear an honest and frank disc...

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