The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

The over spiritualization syndrome Jan 02, 2018

A single guy asked a question for the show that hit some serious buttons for me. I wouldn’t say I’m angry, because I’m not, but I am definitely worked up because I feel like...

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Does what we teach possibly harm your relationship? marriage Dec 26, 2017

“You've talked about taking a timeout when things get too heated. I feel my husband uses this phrase as a way of avoiding the problems we face. Unfortunately, communication in our marriage...

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Is it ok to walk away from your marriage? marriage Dec 19, 2017

Today we take on one of the shortest, yet intense question asked by a listener yet! I’ll just let you read it for yourself, “Is there a walking away point in marriage?”...

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Talking to yourself makes a huge impact marriage personal help Dec 12, 2017

On Saturday Night Live, a character named Stuart Smalley used to say, “I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and dog gone it people like me.” I’m not sure we’ve ever had...

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The Church Marriage Strategy churches marriage Dec 05, 2017

Why we are doing a show like today is beyond me! Because I know at first, you’re going to be thinking to yourself, “How is this going to help me? I’m not a pastor or a leader at...

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A conversation with the "Sex Master" Dave Willis marriage sexual intimacy Nov 28, 2017

What's healthy when it comes to sexual intimacy in marriage? This episode is definitely not for little ears, a warning to those parents who might not want their kids to hear an honest and frank...

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Benefits of a lion attack - sort of parenting smalley marriage radio Nov 21, 2017

I am the survivor of a vicious lion attack.  It happened this past June, and it may be the reason our family is closer than ever.  What is the secret to a close-knit family?...

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What if she does come back - Hero's Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife smalley marriage radio Nov 14, 2017

It’s the ninth show in our series called, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife! It is the final show (until Seth reminds me that we need to do a wrap-up show) of the series. Last...

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What if she doesnā€™t come back ā€“ Heroā€™s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Nov 07, 2017

It’s the eighth show of our series, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife. Sometimes, the hero’s journey doesn’t have a hollywood ending. It can be more like the...

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Asking the all powerful question ā€“ Heroā€™s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 31, 2017

We’ve landed on the seventh week in our series, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife. Today’s show could possibly be the most important of the entire series because you are...

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How a real man seeks forgiveness hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 24, 2017

  • The key strategies to seeking forgiveness are
    • Adjust your expectations of her response
    • Own the damage (which you’ve already learned about in the show “It starts with you”)
    • Be...
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Why she's always right hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 17, 2017

  • What your wife wants most is to be validated
  • “You’re right…”
    • Validating someone’s feelings is first accepting someone’s feelings and then acknowledging and...
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