The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

A.R.E. You ready! conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 08, 2020

We've turned the corner and you are ready to turn betrayal into deeper intimacy!

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Let it go and flush conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 07, 2020

We are turning the corner on Primal Panic and focusing in on genuine healing! Now drop whatever you are doing and flush it.

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The Lover: Primal Panic Reaction conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 06, 2020

This is who you want to be if you ever want to overcome the pain of feeling betrayed.

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The Runner: Primal Panic conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Oct 05, 2020

"We need to talk." Possibly the four worst words this style of panic reaction could ever hear! The Runner is the second bad reaction style to panic and fear of conflict.

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The Fighter: Primal Panic Reaction Style conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Sep 29, 2020

Ever feel like your words and actions were not achieving the deepest desire of your heart? You keep reacting in ways that push people further and further away?

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Born from betrayal: Primal Panic conflict management marriage podcast primal panic Sep 28, 2020

  • Like a knife stabbing you in the chest with each breath you take
  • Like a rain cloud of negative speak following your every move
  • Like an impostor hijacked your normal self
  • Like an explosion in your...
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The mathematical formula for your best life now! conflict management marriage podcast Sep 25, 2020

Dear brothers and sisters, when I was with you I couldn’t talk to you as I would to spiritual people. I had to talk as though you belonged to this world or as though you were infants in...

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The power of a sacred pause conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 18, 2020

"The most important thing in life is to stop saying 'I wish' and start saying 'I will.' Consider nothing impossible, then treat possibilities as probabilities." Charles Dickens wrote that, and...

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4 repulsive reactions you have to stop now conflict management marriage podcast the joy of difficult conversations Aug 17, 2020

Repulsive.  Just saying the word out loud should get your attention. "Arousing intense distaste or disgust." The Urban Dictionary defines repulsive as, "Something or someone that is gross and...

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The one thing you can't do conflict management marriage podcast the joy of difficult conversations Aug 14, 2020

When is the last time you heard, "You never do anything! I have to do everything around here!" Or at least some version of an irritated, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, or disgusting...

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How about trying NOT being a jerk conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 13, 2020

Move from adversaries to teammates. The first three minutes of a difficult conversation matter:

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Move from adversaries to teammates conflict management marriage the joy of difficult conversations Aug 12, 2020

The first three minutes

  • In a six-year longitudinal study performed by John Gottman and Sybil Carrère, they discovered that they could predict the likelihood of a couple’s divorce by...
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