The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

What if she does come back - Hero's Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife smalley marriage radio Nov 14, 2017

It’s the ninth show in our series called, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife! It is the final show (until Seth reminds me that we need to do a wrap-up show) of the series. Last...

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What if she doesn’t come back – Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Nov 07, 2017

It’s the eighth show of our series, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife. Sometimes, the hero’s journey doesn’t have a hollywood ending. It can be more like the...

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Asking the all powerful question – Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 31, 2017

We’ve landed on the seventh week in our series, The Hero’s Guide to Winning Back Your Wife. Today’s show could possibly be the most important of the entire series because you are...

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How a real man seeks forgiveness hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 24, 2017

  • The key strategies to seeking forgiveness are
    • Adjust your expectations of her response
    • Own the damage (which you’ve already learned about in the show “It starts with you”)
    • Be...
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Why she's always right hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 17, 2017

  • What your wife wants most is to be validated
  • “You’re right…”
    • Validating someone’s feelings is first accepting someone’s feelings and then acknowledging and...
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It starts with you hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 10, 2017

  • It starts with you
    • Personal responsibility is at the heart of every healthy relationship
      • It’s the fuel that drives the engine
      • Stop focusing on everything else
      • Look in the mirror, the only...
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Every hero has been humbled hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Oct 03, 2017

  • If you’re listening to this show, you might know of what we speak. “That’ll do Donkey...that’ll do.” Shrek
  • You’ve blown it, now what?
    • Accept the consequences...
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How you lost her in the first place hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Sep 26, 2017

  • How you lost her in the first place
    • Unresolved anger and conflict
    • You were pushing her buttons AND reacting poorly to your buttons being pushed
    • The Conflict Dance
      • How you break the dance
        • Take...
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Who's your daddy? Hero's Guide to Winning Back Your Wife hero's guide to winning back your wife marriage Sep 19, 2017

Today we start a special series on The Hero’s Guide To Winning Back Your Wife. It’s based on a new book I’m writing with my brother-in-law Roger Gibson for men who want to build...

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