Karl Vaters - that small church guy

Karl and I met in Guatemala with Compassion International. That's enough said! You don't want to miss this interview.  He knows things about me because I overshared on the trip!

Karl’s heart is to help pastors of small churches (up to 90 percent of us) find the resources to lead well, and to capitalize on the unique advantages that come with pastoring a small church – something virtually every pastor will spend at least some of their ministry years doing. He also believes that big and small churches can and should work together more often – to the benefit and blessing of everyone.

Karl has been in pastoral ministry for over 30 years. He is the teaching pastor of Cornerstone Christian Fellowship, a healthy small church in Orange County, California, where he has ministered for over 25 years with his wife, Shelley.

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FLQ - hurling mud and other messy stuff

On today’s Friday Listener Questions day we’ve got a spouse constantly hurling mud, one that wants to talk about the terrifying “do I look good in this dress” question and finally, how long does it take to finally start fighting healthy. It’s going to be a good one today my listening friends!

What do you do when you’ve asked for a timeout, yet your spouse keeps hurling mud and refuses to stop after repeated requests? How do you address the weight of your spouse? How long does it take to transition from bad fighting to healthy fighting?

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Pursue forgiveness

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Everybody wants intimacy, but are you willing to do the work of forgiveness?

Early one morning in Dacula, Ga., Matt Swatzell was driving home from a 24-hour shift as a firefighter and EMS and had only 30 minutes of sleep. He was less than four miles from his home on October 2, 2006 when he suddenly heard what he calls “the most God awful sound I’ve ever heard.”

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Here’s what you get in the Pursue Oneness online experience:

  1. Ed Laymance’s Flushing exercise, which is all you need but…

  2. How do you seek forgiveness and repair damage

  3. The 5 stages of forgiveness

  4. The roadblocks keeping you from forgiving others

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The Mental Health Mom

I've got a momma bear in studio today and she goes by the Mental Health Mom! If your child has been diagnosed with a mental disorder then you don't want to miss this episode! Hear her story of misdiagnosis and what she is now doing about it.

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Important links:

  1. Lawlis Peavey PsychoNeuroPlasticity (PNP) Center in Dallas
  2. Sandstone Health in The Woodlands, Texas
  3. Mental Health Mom Resources
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Everything you need to know about foster care

One of the most fascinating interviews of my entire career! The Foster Care and Adoption community needs your help and the Real Life Foster Mom is here to help! Chelsea Zeleny Floro keeps it real and we talk way too much about things that should never be talked about.

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FLQ - Defensiveness, facts and jerks

It’s Friday Listener Questions day! WooHoo! On today’s show, we’ve got defensiveness, staying married to a-holes who will never change, and someone still completely stuck on the importance of facts! Consider it managed!

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  • Can asking back to back questions cause defensiveness in a seemingly innocent conversation?
    • Of course, but really depends on your tone and context of the conversation.
      Anything can turn someone defensive, fairly or unfairly.
  • Should someone stay in a marriage with an asshole who is not going to change?
  • Totally get the “Feelings, not facts” focus, but don’t we sometimes have to reach a common understanding of the facts in order to more fully...
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I got a B on Valentine's Day!

Today is a special day for love! And you get to experience my Valentine’s Day gift for Amy live on Facebook and over the podcast.  I really hope she likes it!

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Pursue attraction

I don’t know why, but for some reason when I have an amazing story to share for this podcast, I think of Mr. Rogers! I’ve got a story for you today that has a drunken crowd, a demanding husband and a wife who does the only thing she could possibly do to make the situation... promising. Join us as we pursue attraction!

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SHOW NOTES

There is an old story that illustrates the principle of honor within marriage. A drunkard husband, spending the evening with his jovial and drunken companions at a tavern, boasted that if he took a group of his friends home with him at midnight and asked his Christian wife to get up and cook supper for them, she would do it without complaint. He laughed...

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Discover the DNA of your relationships

You are made for three fulfilling relationships. You are designed to seek loving, fulfilling and safe relationships with God, others and yourself. Each of these relationships is not only important, but each is intricately related to the other. Everyone wants deep, connected, safe, intimate relationships. A special episode taken from the video series, The DNA of Relationships.  Enjoy my father's session!

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Pursue communication and the Empty Box

Today we have a story. It’s called the Empty Box and we don’t know who wrote it, but trust us, you want to hear it. The emptiness may not be so empty after all.

Pursue Oneness takes the guesswork out of "what can help" by providing an easy way to discover the most important knowledge and skills for you need to succeed in your relationship. Check it out today!

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Show Content:

  • You've got to listen to the story I read for today's show! 
  • We have a gift for you today as well, but it’s not an empty box, but it is filled with L.O.V.E. Talk.
  • “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves” (Romans 12:10)

 

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