The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? marriage podcast questions and conversations sexual intimacy Oct 23, 2020

Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? Wouldn't it leave the instigator feeling under wanted if they are always having to start the festivities?

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The story before 'I have a dream' marriage personal growth sexual intimacy Jan 21, 2019

We were reminded of a story from MLK's life that was a pivotal moment.  A moment he often went back to in times of suffering or exhaustion.  Today we talk about that moment and what it...

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Overcoming the impossible friday listener questions marriage sexual intimacy Jan 04, 2019

It’s Friday Listener Questions day! Today I get to brag about my athletic prowess (sort of), help Matt deal with a wife who kicked him out wanting him to get his life right with Jesus,...

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Should you lie - Intimacy Intelligence intimacy intelligence marriage sexual intimacy Dec 10, 2018

It’s going to be a week for intimacy! Four shows all under the heading of, Intimacy Intelligence. On today’s show, do you really have to be totally honest with your spouse?

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For wives whose husbands struggle with low sex drive friday listener questions marriage sexual intimacy Nov 23, 2018

It’s Friday, which means we get to handle one of your questions! Today is a rarely talked about issue that researchers say impact an estimated 20% of couples. Esther from California asked us...

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14 important facts about hugs marriage personal growth sexual intimacy Nov 19, 2018

Why Hugs Matter So Much

Today we’ve got 14 interesting facts about hugs and why they matter so much to every single important relationship in your life.

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Why you need a Christian sexual ethic - with theology guru Preston Sprinkle interview marriage sexual intimacy Nov 05, 2018

"It's the sin we don't struggle with that we tend to vilify most." That's just one of the great lines from Preston Sprinkle and my latest interview. Preston and I get into the topic of how to love...

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Top 5 Fantasies marriage sexual intimacy Oct 30, 2018

Are you the kind of person who likes to let their imagination run a little wild? Are you afraid that maybe your imagination has a tendency to run a little too wild? Kids, if you’re listening...

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[re-air] Four things every couple needs to know about sex marriage sexual intimacy Jul 24, 2018

Today we are talking about sex, possibly one of the greatest gifts outside of eternal life God ever gave humankind! To help us with this conversation, Dave Willis of strongermarriages.com, is...

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The biggest killers to sexual intimacy and how to eliminate them sexual intimacy tonight Jul 10, 2018

  1. The health of your emotional relationship

    1. If you don’t feel loved, you don’t want to show love

  2. The specific things you are doing to kill your sexual intimacy

    1. Invalidation

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Tonight: Top 10 ways to hack your husband's sex drive marriage sexual intimacy tonight Jul 02, 2018

  1. Initiate don’t hesitate… “So slide over here; And give me a moment; Your moves are so raw; I've got to let you know; I've got to let you know; You're one of my...

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Tonight - Top 10 ways guaranteed to turn your wife on marriage sexual intimacy tonight May 29, 2018

  • This is actually not that difficult! It begins and ends with placing high value and honoring your wife.  Make her #1 and sex is an outpouring of how much she feels loved!
  • Be a great dad!...
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