The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

What is one word that can change my marriage? marriage podcast questions and conversations Dec 15, 2020

What is one word that will change my marriage?

* assist
* help
* benefit
* do a kindness
* go fifty-fifty
* gratify the wishes of
* make room
* meet halfway
* meet the wants
* take it
* be kind...

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How do I stay with a miserable spouse? marriage podcast questions and conversations Dec 14, 2020

How do I stay with someone when they:

  • Consistently shift blame
  • Take no personal responsibility
  • Blame their behaviors on their childhood
  • Gaslight most conversations that are emotional
  • Can’t...
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Help! Divorce is too expensive and homicide is illegal marriage podcast questions and conversations Dec 01, 2020

An answer to the question, "Where do you get help when the only reason you are still married is that 1) divorce is too expensive, and 2) homicide is illegal. (No, this is not a prank question. The...

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What is the greatest predictor of success? marriage podcast questions and conversations Oct 27, 2020

A fellow learner wants to know, "What is the single best predictor of whether a couple who goes through your program will make it."

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How can I get my wife to love me again? marriage podcast questions and conversations Oct 26, 2020

The problem may be with you trying to get her to love you again.

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Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? marriage podcast questions and conversations sexual intimacy Oct 23, 2020

Is it always up to one spouse to instigate sex? Wouldn't it leave the instigator feeling under wanted if they are always having to start the festivities?

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