Tonight - Top 10 ways guaranteed to turn your wife on

  • This is actually not that difficult! It begins and ends with placing high value and honoring your wife.  Make her #1 and sex is an outpouring of how much she feels loved!
  • Be a great dad! Sounds sick, but trust us, it does the trick!
  • Overwhelm her with affirmation about her life, her looks, and her future.
  • It’s old advice, but it is still true today.  Be a listener.  If you are a typical man who loves to solve problems, it doesn’t necessarily work with your wife.  Most times she just wants to be heard and validated.
  • Ask her the trillion dollar question…”What are things I could do for you that really help you get in the mood?”  Then do those things out of a desire to server her, not get sex!
  • Clean, the Mr. Clean commercial couldn’t be more real (at least for most women).
  • Be thoughtful. Look for opportunities to do loving things for your wife on a weekly basis (daily ultimately).  Thoughtfulness leads to sexiness. If you see your wife reacting negatively to something (i.e. a bad conversation with her parent, kids, job, etc.) Ask her, “Honey, is there anything I can do to help right now?”
    1. Amy once came in the house and said, “ van is so stinking dirty, I’m going to have to clean it myself.  But I’m going to take a quick shower and then go clean the van.” I actually heard her, and when she went to take the show I went outside and started washing the van.
  • Chivalry is in fact not dead! Open the door. Assist her with tasks. Give her your coat if she looks or sounds cold.  
    1. Gallantry, courtesy and honor.
    2. The noble qualities a knight was supposed to have, such as courage and a readiness to help the weak.
    3. The demonstration of any of these qualities.
    4. “In short, that’s what chivalry is — a choice. The choice to do the right things, for the right reasons, at the right times. And that’s a definition that even your social studies teacher probably would have approved of.”
  • Communicate with her about what she likes, turn-ons, moves, etc. The best way to pleasure your wife, so she enjoys sex, is to know what she likes.  So ask her!
  • Turn the crockpot on at the beginning of the day! Don’t rush into sex, but build up with anticipation.  Creating anticipation is going to radically increase both your enjoyment, but especially her’s.
    1. Men are like microwave ovens and women are like crockpots
    2. Foreplay is super helpful
    3. Don’t turn a massage into sexipade every time.


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