Should you lie - Intimacy Intelligence

It’s going to be a week for intimacy! Four shows all under the heading of, Intimacy Intelligence. On today’s show, do you really have to be totally honest with your spouse?

Distraction of the Day:

Amy...the following three things are possible reasons why a Nebraska Principal is now on administrative leave, can you guess which one it is?

  1. She banned candy
  2. She was caught eating cockroaches
  3. She hosted a kegger for 10th grade class during school hours

Honoring News of the Day:

Mom Stops To Help 'Big Hairy Tatted Up' Biker And Uses Her Last Bit Of Change

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For wives whose husbands struggle with low sex drive

It’s Friday, which means we get to handle one of your questions! Today is a rarely talked about issue that researchers say impact an estimated 20% of couples. Esther from California asked us to do a show about low sex drive, but she wants to know about the husbands who struggle with a low desire for sex. We learn why this might be happening and more importantly, what to do about it.

Distraction of the Day:

Which two groups of people would be the most unlikely groups to serve soup together for the homeless?

Honoring News of the Day:

https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/bayada-company-founder-surprises-employees-with-20-million 

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Esther, a listener from California asked us to deal with women married to men who have a low sex drive.

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14 important facts about hugs

Today we’ve got 14 interesting facts about hugs and why they matter so much to every single important relationship in your life.

Distraction of the Day:

I’m actually a little nervous for the distraction of the day. But at the end of this show I’m going to show Amy a personally selected, tirelessly researched conglomeration of horribly awkward hugs...and my winning picture of the most awkward hug could get me in trouble. So I went ahead and found a video that will make everything ok again.

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The following facts about hugs provided by Psychology Today and Useless Daily (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/oxytocin | https://www.uselessdaily.com/news/12-interesting-facts-about-hugs/#ixzz5XInVP1Tc)

  1. Hugs release oxytocin: a powerful hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. It influences social interaction and sexual reproduction,...
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Why you need a Christian sexual ethic - with theology guru Preston Sprinkle

"It's the sin we don't struggle with that we tend to vilify most." That's just one of the great lines from Preston Sprinkle and my latest interview. Preston and I get into the topic of how to love someone well you don't agree with and what does it look like from a biblical perspective. You don't want to miss this episode because every one of us has someone in our life we could love better. Of course, I end up oversharing about my own issues, thankfully Preston is a kind man!

You need to check out Preston and his two main ministries:

https://www.prestonsprinkle.com

https://www.centerforfaith.com

Equipping Christian leaders, churches and organizations to engage questions about faith, sexuality & gender with theological faithfulness and courageous love.

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Top 5 Fantasies

Are you the kind of person who likes to let their imagination run a little wild? Are you afraid that maybe your imagination has a tendency to run a little too wild? Kids, if you’re listening you may want to close your ears and parents, you’ll want to open yours because in today’s episode we’re gonna dispel some common misconceptions about the, shall we say, r-rated day dreams of the average adult. Again, kids your gonna want to take your imaginations into the other room because now, it’s time for the adults to have some fun.

Then, near the end of our show today, I’ve got potentially the creepiest Distraction of the Day ever! This is October after all and Halloween is tomorrow!

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[re-air] Four things every couple needs to know about sex

Today we are talking about sex, possibly one of the greatest gifts outside of eternal life God ever gave humankind! To help us with this conversation, Dave Willis of strongermarriages.com, is going to lend his expertise...and trust me, this guy has millions of readers, likes, and more.

Coming up next we talk about the 4 things every couple needs to know about sex.

About Dave and Ashley Willis (www.strongermarriages.com)

  • Almost 1 million likes on their Facebook page!
    • https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriages/
  • Millions of readers on their blog
  • Pastor at Stevens Creek Church near Augusta, Georgia
  • Authors of The 7 Day Marriage Challenge (Husband edition and Wife edition)

4 things every couple needs to know about sex

  • Where do you come up with all this great content?
  • Who was your inspiration to get into marriage ministry?
  • What’s the worst fight you and Ashley have had?
  1. Most MEN see sex as a form of stress relief while most WOMEN need stress relief BEFORE they can be in...
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The biggest killers to sexual intimacy and how to eliminate them

  1. The health of your emotional relationship

    1. If you don’t feel loved, you don’t want to show love

  2. The specific things you are doing to kill your sexual intimacy

    1. Invalidation

      1. How you respond to your spouse matters.

    2. Lack of affirmation

    3. Negative beliefs

  3. Here’s how you eliminate them

    1. Invalidation

      1. Start to validate each other

      2. Empathize

    2. Lack of affirmation

      1. Make a list of what you appreciate about your spouse (you can do this on our app)

      2. Don’t wait till you feel like affirming your spouse, do it because it is the right thing to do. Your spouse isn’t pure evil!

    3. Negative beliefs

      1. Ask questions

      2. Assume the best instead of the worst all the time

Each one of these fixes takes important choices.  Stop acting like a victim and do the right thing regardless of whether your spouse deserves it.

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Tonight: Top 10 ways to hack your husband's sex drive

  1. Initiate don’t hesitate… “So slide over here; And give me a moment; Your moves are so raw; I've got to let you know; I've got to let you know; You're one of my kind…”

  2. “Honestly, do you really even need a list?” so said my 20 yr old daughter!

  3. Be open to change and creativity.

  4. Build excitement and anticipation.

  5. Serve up a five star meal, meat and potatoes or a fast food meal.

  6. Enjoy sex with him, because he truly desires your pleasure too!

  7. Stop criticizing him for being a man, sex is not just for pleasure, it is also his way to bond with you and connect emotionally.

  8. Leave the lights on for a possible change, men tend to be visually stimulated.

  9. Be affirming.

  10. Plan sex.  That’s right, talk with your husband and discover how many times he’d enjoy having sex in a month and what kinds of things he enjoys.

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Tonight - Top 10 ways guaranteed to turn your wife on

  • This is actually not that difficult! It begins and ends with placing high value and honoring your wife.  Make her #1 and sex is an outpouring of how much she feels loved!
  • Be a great dad! Sounds sick, but trust us, it does the trick!
  • Overwhelm her with affirmation about her life, her looks, and her future.
  • It’s old advice, but it is still true today.  Be a listener.  If you are a typical man who loves to solve problems, it doesn’t necessarily work with your wife.  Most times she just wants to be heard and validated.
  • Ask her the trillion dollar question…”What are things I could do for you that really help you get in the mood?”  Then do those things out of a desire to server her, not get sex!
  • Clean, the Mr. Clean commercial couldn’t be more real (at least for most women). https://youtu.be/GDzMxlw2Fgo
  • Be thoughtful. Look for opportunities to do loving things for your wife on a weekly basis (daily ultimately)....
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Tonight: oral sex, toys and so much more

  1. What kind of boundaries does the bible give around sex and marriage?
    1. Be honoring, kind, serving, patient….loving!
    2. That’s it!
    3. Leviticus 18:6-23
      1. 6 “‘No one is to approach any close relative to have sexual relations. I am the Lord.
      2. “‘Do not dishonor your father by having sexual relations with your mother. She is your mother; do not have relations with her. “‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s wife; that would dishonor your father. 9 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your sister, either your father’s daughter or your mother’s daughter, whether she was born in the same home or elsewhere. 10 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your son’s daughter or your daughter’s daughter; that would dishonor you. 11 “‘Do not have sexual relations with the daughter of your father’s wife, born to your father; she is your sister. 12 “‘Do not have sexual...
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