- The key strategies to seeking forgiveness are
- Adjust your expectations of her response
- Own the damage (which you’ve already learned about in the show “It starts with you”)
- Be soft in both words and actions
- Whatever you do, don’t say “I’m sorry”
- Don’t shy away from the really hard stuff
- Take it on the chin if need be
- What if your wife reacts poorly?
- Just exactly what were you expecting?
- Allow her the right to be upset and reject your seeking of forgiveness
- Make sure she knows your “door” is always open if she changes her mind
- Pray and fast on when you should approach her again, but don’t harass her...no matter what
- Give God the chance to work on her heart, that is not your job
- A hero’s actions
- Put some time and prayer in before your initial attempt to seek forgiveness
- Say something like, “I know that I hurt you deeply when I (insert your ownership here). It was wrong and I’d like to ask your forgiveness if you are open to it.”
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