The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

Pursue peace crazy fast conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 05, 2019

Today is about understanding, perhaps, the single greatest thing you can do to decrease anger and increase intimacy! Pursue validation.

Pursue Oneness takes the guesswork out of "what can help" by...

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Pursue Healthy Reactions conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 04, 2019

That was some of the greatest one-liners from movie history edited by Burger Fiction! What does it have to do with today's show on Pursuing Healthy Reactions? Everything! We needed drama to set up...

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FLQ - separate churches and know it all 7yr olds friday listener questions marriage parenting Feb 01, 2019

Could a couple go to separate churches and how do you handle a 7yr old know-it-all boy? All this today on Friday Listener Questions day!

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Pursue incredible change! marriage pursue oneness Jan 31, 2019

“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk...

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Week one of the rest of your life marriage pursue oneness Jan 30, 2019

Believe it or not we’re starting today, I bet you never thought I would do it! Pursue Oneness has begun! Today's topic is about goal setting, infamous issues and so much more! Plus, you get...

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Ever feel ripped off relationally? conflict management marriage personal growth Jan 28, 2019

Amy’s on a prayer retreat and I’m mad as all get out! Of course not about Amy being on a prayer retreat but about the ridiculous NFL football, sabotaging, ripped off, rigged, no good,...

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FLQ - Tracking your spouse friday listener questions marriage Jan 25, 2019

Today I take a voicemail question about whether or not it's ok to track your spouse via their smartphone or is that simply a lack of trust. My answer is going to blow your minds! Or possibly not,...

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Anatomy of trust marriage Jan 24, 2019

Maya Angelou once wrote, “I don't trust people who don't love themselves and tell me, 'I love you.' ... There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a...

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Discovering the value of your personality conflict management marriage Jan 22, 2019

Here's a special treat! From the video archives here at Smalley Institute, we give you my father's session from Hidden Keys to Loving Lasting Relationships...discovering the value of your...

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The story before 'I have a dream' marriage personal growth sexual intimacy Jan 21, 2019

We were reminded of a story from MLK's life that was a pivotal moment.  A moment he often went back to in times of suffering or exhaustion.  Today we talk about that moment and what it...

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FLQ - Abandoned for Europe and a tick story friday listener questions marriage Jan 18, 2019

Get Your Relationship Back in Shape online experience! Allow us to journey with you and help get your relationship back in shape for the New Year!

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Strength: a lower body relational workout gyrbis marriage Jan 16, 2019

“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the...

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