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Never Quit Never Surrender - The Warrior's Marriage

Your marriage is hard, now get over it

I’m continuing in the series, The Warriors Marriage, today is perhaps the simplest concept and the hardest way to be a warrior in your marriage. Your marriage is hard, circumstances seem impossible, now get over it.

Welcome to the podcast, I’m your host Michael Smalley and next, don't ignore this podcast. Keep listening. Keep trusting. Never quit, never surrender.

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“No matter how bad things are, you can always make things worse.” ― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Randolph Frederick Pausch (October 23, 1960 – July 25, 2008) was an American educator, a professor of computer science, human-computer interaction, and design at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU) in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

Pausch learned he had pancreatic cancer in September 2006. In August 2007, he was given a terminal diagnosis: "3 to 6 months of good health left". He gave an upbeat lecture titled "The Last Lecture: Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams" on September 18, 2007, at Carnegie Mellon, which became a popular YouTube video and led to other media appearances. He then co-authored a book called The Last Lecture on the same theme, which became a New York Times best-seller. Pausch died of complications from pancreatic cancer on July 25, 2008, aged 47.

Watch the YouTube video of his last lecture https://youtu.be/ji5_MqicxSo  
Is it your job (military, sales, pilot, missionary), your in-laws, finances, an affair, teenagers, COVID-19, a lazy spouse, fear, anger, bitterness, horrible reactions...what is it making your marriage feel impossible?

How exactly are you making a bad marriage worse?

  1. You’re not responding kindly when your spouse is being a turd
  2. You are refusing to take personal responsibility for your own destructive behavior
  3. You keep choosing one or all of the four reactions that lead to divorce
  4. And the worst thing of all, you quit

Gottman would summarize 40 years of perhaps the greatest research of all time on why couples divorce and exactly what you can do to prevent it.

All I’m asking of you are three things:

  1. Write a letter: What’s the one thing troubling you most?
    1. Get the template for this letter here
    2. Intro: be kind, take ownership
    3. The middle: Be blunt, but only out of care and concern for your spouse. Share your dreams.
    4. The end: Be kind, give hope, and make sure your spouse reads you are not giving up.
    5. Now release it
  2. Get help for yourself
    1. Coaching
    2. Address your coping
    3. Learn how to react better
  3. Never quit, never surrender

The line comes from Galaxy Quest. Tim Allen plays Jason Nesmith, a washed-up character actor who had one big hit: the sci-fi television show Galaxy Quest (a parody of the original Star Trek series). Allen played Commander Peter Quincy Taggart who commanded the starship known as the Protector. Things get complicated when a group of aliens mistakes the Galaxy Quest broadcast as a record of real events. The aliens capture the entire crew of the show and ask them to help them fight a warlike race. Assuming that the aliens are just play-acting, Nesmith agrees to “help” them. The quote is actually the catchphrase of Commander Taggart.

Whenever the Protector is facing seemingly insurmountable odds, Taggart delivers the quote. We shouldn’t give up whenever we hit problems. The biggest success stories of our time hit speed bumps along the way to greatness, to healing. But they never let the roadblocks stop them. Because if we surrender when the stench of trouble is strongest, we’ll never find hope, never experience the true joy of overcoming and reconciliation.

Patience is much more than a virtue, often it’s the only chance. Sometimes it’s the only thing you can do to give your marriage hope and a chance for healing.

Where does your hope come from?

If you don't know Jesus Christ, meet him today! Listen to God's quiet voice and respond.

If you need hope and a pathway to healing, allow me to help. Sign up for the Gottman Assessment and Follow-up coaching program. Streamline the process of getting to the core of your relationship struggles with The Gottman Relationship Checkup online assessment and four-hour private coaching followup. Get personalized, insightful feedback, plus specific recommendations for an action plan based on your assessment results.

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Are you struggling in your marriage with:

  • Difficulty communicating and asserting your needs?
  • Lack of intimacy and feeling disconnected?
  • Feeling stuck because you keep having the same fights over and over again?
  • Feeling easily triggered by built-up resentment?

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