The Reluctant Missionary

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Born from betrayal: Primal Panic

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  • Like a knife stabbing you in the chest with each breath you take
  • Like a rain cloud of negative speak following your every move
  • Like an impostor hijacked your normal self
  • Like an explosion in your brain, sending your thoughts spiraling out of control

You are not just worried or anxious, you are experiencing Primal Panic.

Defining Primal Panic or Attachment Distress

Isolation and the potential loss of loving connection is coded by the human brain into a primal panic response. [Johnson, Dr. Sue. Hold Me Tight (p. 46). Little, Brown and Company. Kindle Edition.]

Primal Panic appears when you feel betrayed by an affair, abuse, divorce, parents, PTSD, etc. Struggles often begin as a child because your parent or caregiver could not provide a safe, secure foundation.

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