Pursue attraction

I don’t know why, but for some reason when I have an amazing story to share for this podcast, I think of Mr. Rogers! I’ve got a story for you today that has a drunken crowd, a demanding husband and a wife who does the only thing she could possibly do to make the situation... promising. Join us as we pursue attraction!

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There is an old story that illustrates the principle of honor within marriage. A drunkard husband, spending the evening with his jovial and drunken companions at a tavern, boasted that if he took a group of his friends home with him at midnight and asked his Christian wife to get up and cook supper for them, she would do it without complaint. He laughed sarcastically, “Ha! That pathetic woman does whatever I tell her to do!”

The crowd of companions, if you could even call them that, more like fellow drunk acquaintances, considered it a vain boast and dared him to try it. “Sure she would! Just like our own wives would! Do it! Prove it!”

So the drunken crowd followed him home singing and mocking the “pathetic” woman...who they’d never even met.  Finally the husband entered the home and the crowd waited at the front door. Piled in tight to make sure they could each see (and hear) his unreasonable demand blow up in his face.

Of course he woke up his wife and demanded she cook something special for his friends. Still sleepy, she sluggishly got out of bed, dressed, came down stairs, and prepared a nice supper for the crowd of acquaintances.  But she served them as cheerfully as if she had been expecting them.

After supper one of the men asked her how she could be so kind when they had been so unreasonable.  “And I know you don’t approve of our conduct...being a Christian and all.” Her reply:

“Sir, when my husband and I were married, we were both in need of a Savior. It has pleased God to call me out of that dangerous condition. However, my husband continues in it. I tremble for his future. Were he to die as he is, he would be miserable forever. I think it my duty to render his present existence as comfortable as possible.”

Not long after, her husband was saved.

Pursuing attraction is about creating safety.  Perhaps the most powerful way to be a love magnet is to unconditionally love your spouse.

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