The Reluctant Missionary

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Tonight: oral sex, toys and so much more

marriage sexual intimacy tonight May 21, 2018

  1. What kind of boundaries does the bible give around sex and marriage?
    1. Be honoring, kind, serving, patient….loving!
    2. That’s it!
    3. Leviticus 18:6-23
      1. 6 “‘No one is to approach any close relative to have sexual relations. I am the Lord.
      2. “‘Do not dishonor your father by having sexual relations with your mother. She is your mother; do not have relations with her. “‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s wife; that would dishonor your father. 9 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your sister, either your father’s daughter or your mother’s daughter, whether she was born in the same home or elsewhere. 10 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your son’s daughter or your daughter’s daughter; that would dishonor you. 11 “‘Do not have sexual relations with the daughter of your father’s wife, born to your father; she is your sister. 12 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s sister; she is your father’s close relative. 13 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your mother’s sister, because she is your mother’s close relative. 14 “‘Do not dishonor your father’s brother by approaching his wife to have sexual relations; she is your aunt. 15 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife; do not have relations with her. 16 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your brother’s wife; that would dishonor your brother. 17 “‘Do not have sexual relations with both a woman and her daughter. Do not have sexual relations with either her son’s daughter or her daughter’s daughter; they are her close relatives. That is wickedness. 18 “‘Do not take your wife’s sister as a rival wife and have sexual relations with her while your wife is living. 19 “‘Do not approach a woman to have sexual relations during the uncleanness of her monthly period.  20 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your neighbor’s wife and defile yourself with her. 21 “‘Do not give any of your children to be sacrificed to Molek, for you must not profane the name of your God. I am the Lord. 22 “‘Do not have sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman; that is detestable. 23 “‘Do not have sexual relations with an animal and defile yourself with it. A woman must not present herself to an animal to have sexual relations with it; that is a perversion.
    4. It’s all good if you honor each other
    5. Sexual intimacy is another way for you to serve each other...i.e. It’s nots about the orgasm, it’s about loving and serving each other.
    6. A real conversation about sex toys:
      1. The 80 something year old pastor
      2. Some women can only reach orgasm with a vibrator
      3. Like everything in life, what’s the heart behind your actions?
        1. If it is selfish, then bad idea
        2. If it dishonors your spouse, then bad idea (we have a whole show coming up on how to handle a spouse who’s been wounded sexually in the past)
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