To the unloved daughters

personal growth Dec 03, 2018

“I was the difficult daughter, deemed theatrical and way too sensitive, according to my mother. I was mocked for my reactions, for my emotionality, for how I laughed and how I cried, and I believed all those things to be true about me.” That was a quote from Gerri, a 43 yr old daughter. Today we are exposing the lies for the unloved daughters and more importantly, revealing the truth that will set them free!

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The rest of Gerri’s quote, “I was a self-conscious young adult, always worried that people would reject me because I was so lacking. At 32, one of my professors in grad school pulled me aside and asked why I was so hard on myself, so unable to accept a compliment, why I tore down my own work. It was as though someone had unplugged a dam. Along with therapy, that was a turning point in my life.”

The article is by Peg Streep, 12 Things an Unloved Daughter Gets Wrong About Life. The worst effects of a toxic childhood aren't always obvious.

The unloved daughter will blame herself for being mistreated. The truth: I am God’s creation – His workmanship. I was created by Him and for Him, so who I am and what I do matters. (Psalms 139, Ephesians 2:10)

Interesting thought about how we all believe our mother loves us, so if she is saying bad things to me and about me, they must be true.  Streep wrote, “blaming yourself is a lot less scary than facing the admission that the person who’s supposed to protect and care for you cannot be relied upon.”

The unloved daughter believes her feelings are wrong and not to be trusted. The truth: I am a child of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, seated with Christ in the heavenly realm. I am chosen, accepted, and included – a citizen of heaven and a member of God’s household. (Revelations 1:8, John 1:12) (Ephesians 2:6, I Peter 2:9) (John 14: 1-6, Ephesians 2:19)

The unloved daughter believes love is a transaction. The truth: I am loved by God unconditionally and without reservation. (Romans 5:6-8, I John 4:10)

The unloved daughter believes there is no healing for her. The truth: I am forgiven – completely, totally, and absolutely.I have been rescued from the dominion of darkness and brought into the Kingdom of light – the Kingdom of the Son. (I John 1:9, Psalm 103:8-13) (Colossians 1:13)


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