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That was some of the greatest one-liners from movie history edited by Burger Fiction! What does it have to do with today's show on Pursuing Healthy Reactions? Everything! We needed drama to set up understanding the drama in your communication.  Today is about finally discovering what's actually wrong with your relationship! Welcome.

Pursue Oneness takes the guesswork out of "what can help" by providing an easy way to discover the most important knowledge and skills for you need to succeed in your relationship. Check it out today!

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What's really the problem in your relationship?  As Al Pacino might say as Tony Montana from the movie Scarface, "Say hello to my little friend..." called buttons!  The problem is a miserable dance you get stuck in that exclusively deals with how you react when your buttons get pushed.

What are buttons "my...

Could a couple go to separate churches and how do you handle a 7yr old know-it-all boy? All this today on Friday Listener Questions day!

Pursue Oneness takes the guesswork out of "what can help" by providing an easy way to discover the most important knowledge and skills for you need to succeed in your relationship. Check it out today!

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Voicemail question:
So again, my question is what is your thoughts about husband and wife going to two separate churches. We were going to separate he decided that he was going to go there. We didn't separate we work on our marriage and now we're back together, but now he wants me to fully commit to being there and I wish I was able to stay where we were since we were young.

Mia Albert
I’m at the dentist waiting for my seven-year-old, so I can’t call, but am hoping you will take my “FLQ” this way!!...

“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation.” - Madeleine L’Engle

Today is day two of the Pursue Oneness series of podcasts. It’s the first of seven key strategies that will help you build the relationship of your dreams! And you’re going to hate this one! Because it is staring at you every morning in the mirror.

Pursue Oneness takes the guesswork out of "what can help" by providing an easy way to discover the most important knowledge and skills for you need to succeed in your relationship. Check it out today!

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Today is all about Pursuing Responsibility!

“If we commit ourselves to one...

Believe it or not we’re starting today, I bet you never thought I would do it! Pursue Oneness has begun! Today's topic is about goal setting, infamous issues and so much more! Plus, you get to hear what wicked crazy things we've got for you online!

Pursue Oneness takes the guesswork out of "what can help" by providing an easy way to discover the most important knowledge and skills for you need to succeed in your relationship. Check it out today!

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Week one of the Pursue Oneness online experience! It’s all about your goals, your health and your personality.

Why do goals matter? What kind of goals are we wanting them to type out?

The 8 Question Test that predicts divorce!  This matters because you need to know where you stand in your relationship. Don’t be afraid because knowledge is power! Take it online in this experience!

Now...

Amy’s on a prayer retreat and I’m mad as all get out! Of course not about Amy being on a prayer retreat but about the ridiculous NFL football, sabotaging, ripped off, rigged, no good, liver licking...here’s a better rant for how I feel today about the two games over the weekend…cue Clark Griswold.

But at the end of the day, this is a relationship show after all. So I thought I might talk about what you can do when you feel ripped off emotionally by someone you love.

Get Your Relationship Back in Shape online experience! Allow us to journey with you and help get your relationship back in shape for the New Year!

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When you feel ripped off relationally, what’s really going on? My guess is a massive button is getting pushed, probably something like feeling injustice, unfair, etc.  This is always your first goal when...

Today I take a voicemail question about whether or not it's ok to track your spouse via their smartphone or is that simply a lack of trust. My answer is going to blow your minds! Or possibly not, depends on your mind I guess.

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No notes this time! But I cover tracking your spouse and some other great questions from the Facebook Live watchers!

Maya Angelou once wrote, “I don't trust people who don't love themselves and tell me, 'I love you.' ... There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” Today we explore the anatomy of trust with Dr. Brené Brown...sort of!

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Dr. Brene Brown: Anatomy of trust:

Trust is built in the small moments.

Listening, paying attention to the person, noticing things and discussing them

Betrayal - choosing not to connect when you have the opportunity.

“To choose not to connect when the opportunity is there is a moment of betrayal…”
Definition of Trust: “Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of...

Here's a special treat! From the video archives here at Smalley Institute, we give you my father's session from Hidden Keys to Loving Lasting Relationships...discovering the value of your personality!

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Sign up today for the free Smalley animal personality online course! Here's what you receive:

1. Free online assessment of the Smalley Animal Personality Test (Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, Beaver)
2. Classic video from Dr. Gary Smalley on discovering the value of your personality
3. In-depth lesson content to help you better understand each other
4. The personality relationship dynamic report where you can discover key issues for every conceivable personality match
5. And it's all free!

We were reminded of a story from MLK's life that was a pivotal moment.  A moment he often went back to in times of suffering or exhaustion.  Today we talk about that moment and what it means for your relationship. 

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Interesting Facts about Michael King Jr…we mean Martin Luther King Jr.

1. His name was originally Michael, not Martin.  His father was also Michael King, hence why Martin Luther King Jr. was originally named Michael King Jr.  However, after a trip to Germany in 1931, Michael King Sr. changed his own name in homage to historic German theologian Martin Luther.  Michael King Jr. was two years old at the time and King Sr. made the decision to change his...

Get Your Relationship Back in Shape online experience! Allow us to journey with you and help get your relationship back in shape for the New Year!

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Distraction of the Day:

Back to the Future has gotten it right once again! Nike has something new arriving February 17th and I must have it! Any guesses as to what it might be? Find out by listening to the podcast to the very end.

Honoring News of the Day:

Mom Adopts Baby And Learns She Is Her Adopted Son's Biological Sister

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Question #1
Hi, so about a month ago. My husband told me that he didn't think our marriage was working and very quickly. He would go through the steps of getting a divorce, and he finally agreed to talk to a marriage counselor, and he also decided that he needed to Move out at this point today. I know it is. He has booked a trip for himself to Europe and a few weeks. So just...