The Reluctant Missionary

Authentic stories from the travels of Michael Smalley.

I got a B on Valentine's Day! marriage valentines day Feb 14, 2019

Today is a special day for love! And you get to experience my Valentine’s Day gift for Amy live on Facebook and over the podcast.  I really hope she likes it!

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Pursue attraction conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 13, 2019

I don’t know why, but for some reason when I have an amazing story to share for this podcast, I think of Mr. Rogers! I’ve got a story for you today that has a drunken crowd, a...

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Discover the DNA of your relationships marriage Feb 11, 2019

You are made for three fulfilling relationships. You are designed to seek loving, fulfilling and safe relationships with God, others and yourself. Each of these relationships is not only...

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Pursue communication and the Empty Box conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 07, 2019

Today we have a story. It’s called the Empty Box and we don’t know who wrote it, but trust us, you want to hear it. The emptiness may not be so empty after all.

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Pursue unity quietly conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 06, 2019

President Roosevelt's "day in infamy" and Winston Churchill's "never surrender" are two famous speeches setting the tone for today's show. We share a story from our past that I’m simply...

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Pursue peace crazy fast conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 05, 2019

Today is about understanding, perhaps, the single greatest thing you can do to decrease anger and increase intimacy! Pursue validation.

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Pursue Healthy Reactions conflict management marriage pursue oneness Feb 04, 2019

That was some of the greatest one-liners from movie history edited by Burger Fiction! What does it have to do with today's show on Pursuing Healthy Reactions? Everything! We needed drama to set up...

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FLQ - separate churches and know it all 7yr olds friday listener questions marriage parenting Feb 01, 2019

Could a couple go to separate churches and how do you handle a 7yr old know-it-all boy? All this today on Friday Listener Questions day!

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Pursue incredible change! marriage pursue oneness Jan 31, 2019

“If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk...

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Week one of the rest of your life marriage pursue oneness Jan 30, 2019

Believe it or not we’re starting today, I bet you never thought I would do it! Pursue Oneness has begun! Today's topic is about goal setting, infamous issues and so much more! Plus, you get...

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Ever feel ripped off relationally? conflict management marriage personal growth Jan 28, 2019

Amy’s on a prayer retreat and I’m mad as all get out! Of course not about Amy being on a prayer retreat but about the ridiculous NFL football, sabotaging, ripped off, rigged, no good,...

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FLQ - Tracking your spouse friday listener questions marriage Jan 25, 2019

Today I take a voicemail question about whether or not it's ok to track your spouse via their smartphone or is that simply a lack of trust. My answer is going to blow your minds! Or possibly not,...

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