The Wrong Question

I was a psychologist with a PhD, thirty years of experience, and a marriage that was falling apart while I taught other people how to fix theirs. Fun times. In this episode I tell you about the afternoon I sat in a rental car in a Colorado Springs parking lot, sobbing into my phone for three hours, and finally stumbled into the one question that changed everything. It was not the question I had been asking my whole life. That question, "what is wrong with me," had only ever taken me to one place. Shame. The better question took me somewhere I had never been. Understanding. I also break down what trauma actually is, and I promise you it is not what you think. And I walk you through five specific ways unresolved trauma quietly wrecks your most important relationships without you ever seeing it coming. If you have ever looked at your own life and thought "I literally know better than this, so why can't I do better than this," welcome to the club. Pull up a chair. I saved you a seat.