The Thing You Are Protecting

Last week I told you I know what to do and I am not doing it. This week I want to go underneath that and ask why.

Because the half measure is never random. You are not failing at willingness across the board. You are willing about almost everything and unwilling about one specific thing, and that one thing is fenced off, guarded, and quietly non-negotiable. Every path to freedom that has ever worked runs directly through it.

Here is mine. I gained a lot of weight after I moved to Fort Worth. For a while I told myself it was stress. It is not stress. It is grief. I am fifty-three, I do not own a home, and I have never been able to give my kids a place I built for them to come home to. My father was a wealthy, world famous man who provided for us in a way I have never been able to provide for mine. And some days it feels strange to have already done the most extraordinary things I may ever get to do.

I have been eating and drinking my way around sitting still with that. That is the thing I am protecting.

This episode is about finding yours. Because the thing you are protecting is almost always the thing that is killing you.

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