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Perpetual Problems Assessment 

Relationship Assessment

Discover Your Perpetual Problems

Every couple has issues that never fully go away. That's not failure—that's normal. This assessment helps you identify the recurring themes in your relationship so you can stop trying to "fix" them and start learning to dance with them instead.

69%
of relationship conflicts are perpetual problems—issues rooted in fundamental differences between partners that will never be completely "solved." The happiest couples aren't the ones without these problems. They're the ones who've learned to navigate them with grace.

This quick assessment will help you identify your top perpetual problems and understand why accepting—not eliminating—these differences is the path forward.

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Your Results

Hi, Here's What We Found

Based on your responses, these are the areas where you and your partner experience the most recurring friction. Remember: having these issues doesn't mean your relationship is broken—it means you're two unique people trying to build a life together.

Your Top Perpetual Problems
Great news! You didn't identify any major perpetual problems.
Either you and your partner are remarkably aligned, or there may be some areas worth exploring more deeply together.
Areas of Strength
What This Means For You
The issues you identified aren't problems to be solved—they're differences to be understood. When couples try to "win" these arguments or force their partner to change, they get stuck in gridlock. But when they shift from problem-solving to dialogue, something beautiful happens: they stop feeling like opponents and start feeling like teammates navigating life's complexity together.

The goal isn't to eliminate your differences. It's to create enough safety that you can talk about them without things blowing up—and maybe even laugh about them sometimes.
Ready to Go Deeper?
Understanding your perpetual problems is just the first step. If you'd like help learning how to navigate these areas with more grace and connection, we're here for you.
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